Helping others to quit is not as easy as one thinks.
Almost everyone who has smoked for a few years, would probably love to stop smoking, but most of they can’t. Smokers know how difficult it is to stop smoking and it probably already bothers them that they can’t quit.
So having family and friends pester them to stop, as if quitting smoking were the easiest thing in the world, is actually a constant reminder that they can’t stop by themselves.
So instead of being a help, pestering smokers is often counterproductive.
One of the problems is that well-meaning non-smokers have when they are pontificating about health and quitting smoking, is that non-smokers simply don’t know what they are talking about.
People who have never smoked think smoking is a just a choice and if they wanted to , smokers could just quit anytime they want. Non-smokers have no idea that smoking is a very strong addiction caused by nicotine. David Bowie once said it was easier to quit heroin than cigarettes.
First step – help someone quit smoking
So the first step for people who live with smokers is to stop the pestering, nagging and scolding. It will not help.
A smoker does need support and encouragement but in a useful and constructive way. Hugs, high-fives and ‘you can do it’ chants are lovely, but they won’t last 1 round in the heavyweight fight against a heavy smoker’s nicotine addiction.
So if you have a heavy smoker in the family or your partner is a daily smoker, then you have to find another way.
One of the ways, in our opinion, is to first understand yourself how nicotine works.
Second step – help someone quit smoking
So the second step is buy our e-book, or paperback yourself and read it. Do this to educate yourself about smoking and nicotine. Our book “Stepbac® from Smoking” explains all how smoking and the nicotine in an easy way with many illustrations.
It takes a couple of hours to read. After reading “Stepbac® from Smoking” you will know what you are dealing with. Remember the enemy here is nicotine, not the person you love.
Third step – help someone quit smoking
Third step, and this is the hard one, get your smoking friend or loved one to read the book too.
You can´t just leave in on their pillow. In our experience giving the book to someone who smokes rarely helps. The smoker will thank you, but won´t read the book. You have to understand that for a smoker addicted to nicotine, there is never really a good time to stop, so many smokers live in denial and keep pushing the quitting date in front of them. Often family and friends who are trying to help are told to in a nice way to “mind their own business.” A smoker will tell them thanks but I “will quit when I am good and ready” or I will “quit in my own good time,” and so on. You might have heard all this.
So how to give them the book and get them to read it? Try this. Order a signed and number paperback edition of our book “Stepbac® from Smoking”. We will sign and number it. If you tell us what to write we can include a personal message from you. Or you can add this yourself. Then we will send it to you.
You then give this special edition of “Stepbac® from Smoking” a present to the smoker. But do it privately – not in front of all the family. Do it one on one.
Doing it this way will send a deeply personal message. The message is this: I love you, I care about you and I really want you to enjoy a longer and happier and healthier life with you, so I have made a personal effort to find a great way for you to stop smoking. I even read the book myself and I have made a special effort to get you a signed copy of this book. Finally I put my own special message of love and support and encouragement in the book.
I did all this, because I love you very much and I care deeply about you and our life together. So all I am asking is that you (the smoker) spend the couple of hours to read the book. That’s all I am asking. Read the book “Stepbac® from Smoking”. Then, if you feel you are ready to quit after reading the book, then it will be your own decision, which of course I will support all the way.
That’s it. Will it help someone you love quit. It might. We hope so. Try it. Good luck. God bless.
Order a signed number paperback edition of “Stepbac® from Smoking”